学会自嘲 Learn to laugh at yourself

我们很容易板着一张脸-例如犯了错误之后感到羞愧，或者是想努力维持严肃的模样。但是，生活是能变得轻松的。如果我们不时自嘲自己的某种性格，错误或者某种神经质的想法和行为的话。



当对目前的关系感到疲惫，或者某个工程迟迟未完成，或者把车撞了个大洞，都会令人精神紧张，情绪沮丧。用数分钟时间到外头散散步，自我解嘲一番，将会使你放松，不再坚持十全十美，用新的眼光看待生活。



Everyone has undergone the same situation perhaps..everybody did mistakes and the one who is able to solve the problems might be the smarter one than the one who can't. However, can we say that the one who takes a failure very lightly as the smartest and greatest?



Yeah, actually for the advanced and stressful generation now, we not only have to be very good in communication skill but also have to learn how to cope with stress. I used to think, there are so many ways of coping stress, for example somebody who likes to dance they will probably go for dancing class or party, those who like to stay in own world will probably stay in home whole day during holiday doing own stuffs-im doing this only when i really have nothing else to do( it feels good when staying alone at home).



The same thing i'm doing now no doubt is do relive stress after few weeks have been working in a physiotherapy clinic.The owner of the clinic is a middle aged indian guy with very strict own principles. When i think of this indian guy, a chill passing all over my body. He is sometimes very amusing, sometimes very strict, really unpredictable. He's a good story teller, like to test general knowledge(damn, i always speechless when i was asked).



I feel stress when im staying around him, he works at least 15 hours per day and the maximum working hours he went through is 20 hours. Oh god, how can he bear with the tiredness, the exhausting body and the aging body system since he's already past 50...How can he bear with the stressful hours since he has no rest at all,he's working everyday including weekends.



Somebody works because of habits, somebody works to fulfill daily expenses, some of them work for others like for family and children's education. i did ask him one day, 'Why would you work so hard?' He answered me, work for satisfaction and his children. when children are so excellent in result, will you be thinking to put more effort on their education? He has two children doing medicine now, of course he has to work harder to pay the debt.



I discover the reason why i will be so frightened of him, the first day i enter the clinic i was already nicely scolded.Not to say scolded, but strictly asked.. he asked for my name. I comfirm that there's no mistakes i made after i answered him "my name is Jessy". Then he started asking strict questions, 'why would you use this europe name since you are a pure chinese?', 'you are not proud of your own chinese name?'. i was speechless..



From that day onwards, nobody recognise me as Jessy in the clinic. I'm scared of him and somehow i really miss the feeling being called Kwee Pin or Pin.Maybe i shouldn't have choosen this nick name, but i don't regret, i prefer people call me Jessy still. People at my age are grown enough to have own opinion, and we should stay still on it.



I will recall on this article- learn to laugh at yourself, when sometimes i stress staying around him or scolded because of poor general knowlege. Laugh at ownself is considered as a self comfort skill. It's really usefull and effective. Nobody is perfect, i do mistakes, you do mistakes, even gods do mistakes too. What matters most is our attitude to look into the mistakes we have done. Be upset and regretting on what have we done only are useless.



Keep in mind, once we have done any mistakes, let go it but swear in own heart not to repeat it again. Be happy and cheerful because again we have got a lesson.Life is meaningful so value the time with happiness rather than staying with the miserable face all the time.



Let's do facial exercises, come on, first open eyes widely, yes.. wide enough till you feel the eye lids are strectched, alright, now open mouth widely until the throat is visible, wonderfull.. Lastly, come show the teeth like promoting darlie toothpaste..See how pretty the face is in the mirror. Keep it for few hours might be the best. Probably the mother will be shocked..haha..