Friday, May 29, 2009

学会自嘲 Learn to laugh at yourself

我们很容易板着一张脸-例如犯了错误之后感到羞愧,或者是想努力维持严肃的模样。但是,生活是能变得轻松的。如果我们不时自嘲自己的某种性格,错误或者某种神经质的想法和行为的话。



当对目前的关系感到疲惫,或者某个工程迟迟未完成,或者把车撞了个大洞,都会令人精神紧张,情绪沮丧。用数分钟时间到外头散散步,自我解嘲一番,将会使你放松,不再坚持十全十美,用新的眼光看待生活。



Everyone has undergone the same situation perhaps..everybody did mistakes and the one who is able to solve the problems might be the smarter one than the one who can't. However, can we say that the one who takes a failure very lightly as the smartest and greatest?



Yeah, actually for the advanced and stressful generation now, we not only have to be very good in communication skill but also have to learn how to cope with stress. I used to think, there are so many ways of coping stress, for example somebody who likes to dance they will probably go for dancing class or party, those who like to stay in own world will probably stay in home whole day during holiday doing own stuffs-im doing this only when i really have nothing else to do( it feels good when staying alone at home).



The same thing i'm doing now no doubt is do relive stress after few weeks have been working in a physiotherapy clinic.The owner of the clinic is a middle aged indian guy with very strict own principles. When i think of this indian guy, a chill passing all over my body. He is sometimes very amusing, sometimes very strict, really unpredictable. He's a good story teller, like to test general knowledge(damn, i always speechless when i was asked).



I feel stress when im staying around him, he works at least 15 hours per day and the maximum working hours he went through is 20 hours. Oh god, how can he bear with the tiredness, the exhausting body and the aging body system since he's already past 50...How can he bear with the stressful hours since he has no rest at all,he's working everyday including weekends.



Somebody works because of habits, somebody works to fulfill daily expenses, some of them work for others like for family and children's education. i did ask him one day, 'Why would you work so hard?' He answered me, work for satisfaction and his children. when children are so excellent in result, will you be thinking to put more effort on their education? He has two children doing medicine now, of course he has to work harder to pay the debt.



I discover the reason why i will be so frightened of him, the first day i enter the clinic i was already nicely scolded.Not to say scolded, but strictly asked.. he asked for my name. I comfirm that there's no mistakes i made after i answered him "my name is Jessy". Then he started asking strict questions, 'why would you use this europe name since you are a pure chinese?', 'you are not proud of your own chinese name?'. i was speechless..



From that day onwards, nobody recognise me as Jessy in the clinic. I'm scared of him and somehow i really miss the feeling being called Kwee Pin or Pin.Maybe i shouldn't have choosen this nick name, but i don't regret, i prefer people call me Jessy still. People at my age are grown enough to have own opinion, and we should stay still on it.



I will recall on this article- learn to laugh at yourself, when sometimes i stress staying around him or scolded because of poor general knowlege. Laugh at ownself is considered as a self comfort skill. It's really usefull and effective. Nobody is perfect, i do mistakes, you do mistakes, even gods do mistakes too. What matters most is our attitude to look into the mistakes we have done. Be upset and regretting on what have we done only are useless.



Keep in mind, once we have done any mistakes, let go it but swear in own heart not to repeat it again. Be happy and cheerful because again we have got a lesson.Life is meaningful so value the time with happiness rather than staying with the miserable face all the time.



Let's do facial exercises, come on, first open eyes widely, yes.. wide enough till you feel the eye lids are strectched, alright, now open mouth widely until the throat is visible, wonderfull.. Lastly, come show the teeth like promoting darlie toothpaste..See how pretty the face is in the mirror. Keep it for few hours might be the best. Probably the mother will be shocked..haha..

Sunday, May 17, 2009

Valuable memory






Here i wanna share about my childhood memory..i was born in a shop and had been living there for my age..people will call that as grocery shop instead of a herbal shop even though this shop is registered as the name of 'Kedai Ubat'.

About two months ago i left the shop due to my dad' s retirement. Most of the customers were suprised when they knew the shop is gonna be closed. They wonder why this old shop will suddenly be closed. They always think we were having good business.Yeah, actually seriosly we did have good business few years ago. And i guess due to many other competitiors like giant, jusco, carefour coming out giving promotion, our business getting worse as time past.

I was thinking actually my parents had made a smart decision on buying this shop. Why i said so because this shop is very near to the schools, not only one but few schools. This reason making us very exhausted and tired of serving customers during school open days. Most of the customers will come to buy school bags, shoes, stationary and school clothes. Im saying truthly here, doing student's business is a intelligent decision for earning money. Nowadays i find students are more rich than working people.

Oh god, i miss the shop, i miss my childhood memory in the shop. The past 10+ years i was there and had gone through so much of funny and tough incidents there. I used to be in the shop serving customers no matter school days or holidays. So my friends and teachers actually can look for me in the shop very easily. I used to complain a lot to my friends that i didn't have enough time due to working in the shop whole day from 10 morning to 9.30 night. Of course i never complain to my dad because everyone of my siblings actually work as me too.

There are people asking me how could i study as i spent most of the time in the shop.Ha..If the shop is still here, i will say its a secret, but now i share the secret to you guys here. Actually i used to hide behind the shop to study and do homework. That's why my dad had to hire a indonesia maid to help. Naughty me ya.. i know.

The last few days before the shop was closed down, i carefully stared at each of every corners of the shop, i found quite a lot of my drawing and writing on the wall. I found my name on the wall too, i guess i wrote it when i was small enough to learn how to write my name. That will be a memory in the shop there.

'Kedai Ubat Kim Loy' will always be in my heart.


Friday, May 15, 2009

Here comes Junior Blogger!!

This is what we call trend,there are too many friends blogging nowadays..i cant stand to have my own here too..

Actually why i start to write blog now?i myself cant think of a acceptable reason.maybe I'm too free?cannot be..maybe I'm influenced by the Japanese drama 'one litre of tear'?yeah,can be..maybe I'm just too curious how the feeling is when somebody owns a blog..haha..

OK let me explain here,being free is not the reason because people who know me well they know i won let myself to be free..i guess even when I'm free i won use blog as my habit la..and what is so powerful about this Japanese drama?This drama's name implies those who has watched it definitely will be touched and cry for it..I'm not lying,if u guys dun believe,try to watch it..

This drama mainly about a cerebellar ataxia girl,who got to know about the condition only when she is in the age of 15,this is such a cruel disease,this disease makes patient slowly losing the ability to move..So the patient will slowly worsened from frequent falls,progress to inability to write and talk..Although i know about this disease very well as one of the neurology topics last semester,when i watch this drama,the feeling comes differently and i feel so sad for this girl..This was really happened in Japan..and the girl died in her 25..

She was able to share her experience during her life journey because of her determination..she never give up writing diary everyday even though her gripping of pen is getting weaker and weaker when time past.she keeping a thought in her mind,she wanna tell others that having the same disease as hers as well as the normal person like us here..life is precious no matter is it tough or easy.she tells me how important is love,love not only from beloved one,family members,friends,teachers,and those that have been passing by throughout our lives.

Let's us value our time and life..take care of everyone in our life.dun be stingy to say thanks to everyone that has helped us.even somebody who has hurt us,because they make us grow,grow up and become a marvellous fellow creature here writing this blog.

I'm proud of myself that can see the beautiful dress,can taste bread that i like,can hear birthday song special for me,can smell perfume of somebody else's..and also can touch those i love.I'm proud of being a real marvellous girl.